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If you’re like me, you work hard at maintaining a desired level of peace and serenity within your life. Then, it can easily be blown in one incident of having to deal with other stressed out people or places. You might find yourself blowing your cool over something inconsequential such as an irate driver, or a longer than preferred line at the store.

When your stress levels soar, you could end up resenting other people or yourself for losing that nice peaceful feeling you were just starting to enjoy. On top of that, it can be frustrating to have to start over again in getting back the serenity you worked so hard to maintain in the first place. Now you’re stressed about being stressed. It can be a vicious, hard-to-break cycle. Luckily, there are positive steps you can take to change all that!

Let me first assure you it’s perfectly natural to find yourself getting stressed out along with the people you’re around, or the environment you’re in. Studies show that one negative person can bring down a whole room full of positive people. The same holds true for how one stressed-out person can raise the stress levels of those around him/her. There is also the energy in an environment, caused by people or the environment itself, that is a very powerful force to deal with. The more sensitive you are to energy, the more susceptible you will be to energy given off by other people and places. We will talk about how to deal with that in a little while.

I feel the first thing we need to do is put it firmly in our minds that Stress Happens! In all of our efforts to remain calm and peaceful, it’s easy to forget that stressful events in and of themselves are not what does the damage to us. Whether its good or bad stress, coming from within yourself or from other people and places, it completely depends on how you process the stress that ultimately determines how it will end up affecting you. Cultivating acceptance can help immensely. That is the first, and very important, part of our Stress Reduction Plan.

The next step of the Stress Reduction Plan is to practice staying in the Right Here, Right Now, present time. Staying with the immediate will dramatically decrease feelings of anxiety and fear. You will be aware of the energy going on around you, so you can be alert to stressful energy and deal with it accordingly. You will also be able to face the stress head on before it turns into another tension headache or sleepless night.

One thing that helps me stay mindful of focusing on the present is to practice, practice, and practice some more! Be mindful of how your body moves, feel how your eyes are moving as they read this article, how you are sitting in your chair, how the air around you feels on your body. Listen to what is going on around you, the hum of the computer, or outside traffic, birds singing; whatever you can hear, really take time to hear it. Use all of your senses to experience everything that is around you at all times. Practice these things throughout the day as you accomplish your daily tasks and see if it helps you, too.

The third step we are going to take in creating our Stress Reduction Plan is to make a list of your Stress Hot Spots. Perhaps it’s trying to get ready for your day, especially if you’re getting kids to school and significant others off to work. Maybe it’s rush hour, or suppertime, or the end of the workday where things are the most chaotic and apt to take you out of your Happy Place. Really take some time to create a list of all the different areas of your life where stress is going to be inevitable.

Once you have a list of your “Stress Hot Spot” times, ask yourself these questions for each item listed:

· Are there ways you can lessen the impact of that stress for yourself and others? Maybe it’s as simple as waking up 10 minutes earlier to avoid the morning rush).

· Can you ask others for help?

· Can you allow other people to keep their own feelings of stress in this situation without feeling you’re abandoning them if you don’t join in by getting stressed out yourself?

· Are there any items that you are procrastinating about that might make stressful times even more stressful for yourself or others? How can you correct that?

· Can you find any humor in it at all? There’s usually a lighter side of every situation and looking for that can really help when things start getting too heavy.

· Do you have time for a quick break, before, during, or after the stressful event?

· What others strategies might help Stress Hot Spot times go as smoothly and enjoyably as possible?

Part of creating your list might be to request a team or family meeting to help brainstorm suggestions to alleviate the stressful areas you all share together. This will help improve everyone’s stress level and peace of mind!

After you answer all the questions, add the suggestions you came up with to your Daily To-Do list. It also might be helpful to post some reminder signs around your house or office to keep you aware of what you’re working towards.

Another important part of keeping your cool is to release being judgmental. For example, that excruciatingly slow driver probably isn’t really a bum out to ruin your life. They might be having any number of personal crisis situations going on. You never really know what’s going on in other people’s lives, and most likely they’re not thinking about what’s going on in your life either. Think about when you have been the most challenged in your own life and how wonderful it would feel if others gave you patience and understanding. Maybe you can teach those others a lesson by being the patient, understanding one first. You will feel more control of yourself and your day as well!

Speaking of being in control, Free Will offers us the wonderful blessing of being able to consciously accept or reject stress coming from others. For example, if your boss or life partner is exhibiting high stress symptoms, you can allow them to keep their own stressed energies without becoming attached and absorbing those energies yourself. Allow other people to own their own negative feelings or stress, and allow yourself to stay attached to your own feelings of peace and serenity. You can still be there for the person without experiencing their negative or stressful emotions with them. I can guarantee that you will be a bigger help to them, and to yourself, when you are coming from a center of peace than if you are a stressed out wreck waiting to happen!

Another wonderful thing about Free Will is it gives you the ability to consciously create your environment. If you walk into a room that has negative or stressful energy, imagine positive and peaceful energy filling up the room as well. This will help you from being overcome with the bad energy and help others in the area by drawing out more of their positive energy. It’s a simple scientific equation that like attracts like. In keeping with that equation, the more positive feelings you give out, the more will come back to you. Play with this idea for a while and see how effective it can be.

Of course, unless you are completely enlightened, there will be times that stress gets the best of you. When you get anxious or afraid, allow the feelings to flow through you without fighting with yourself over them. It really is okay to have those or other not-so-pleasant emotions from time to time; it’s how you act on them that determines if they are going to be beneficial or harmful to you. Always remember that you have Free Will and can make choices from a place of serenity no matter what situation you find yourself in.

I hope these ideas help you keep your cool even in the most challenging of times. If you would like more specific tools in regard to your own unique lifestyle, I would be more than happy to talk with you about it. Also, I would love to hear from you if you would like to share how these tools I’ve mentioned work for you in your life, or have any other suggestions or questions. Please contact me anytime. ]]> Mon, 19 Nov 2007 09:37:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/285283 Are You in Relationship Remission http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/285275
They retreat into a shell, vowing to never allow anyone to penetrate this invisible shield of protection to their heart because, after all, they don’t want to be hurt again. And do you blame them?

These people whose hearts have been crushed to the point where they just say “no” to relationships are in what I call “relationship remission.”

As a relationship expert focusing on the soul mate relationship in particular, you would think that I would discourage closing off your heart for awhile, but there comes a time in one’s life when it’s often necessary to take a step back and find out who you are and what you want out of life.

At the tender age of four, Molly envisioned what her husband was going to look like and that they’d have two boys, two girls and all the puppies and kittens they wanted. She had a “pretend” marriage with Alfred, the little boy next door, and while the adults thought it was cute, Molly knew, even back then, that she wanted a fairytale marriage and was going to live happily ever.

Fast forward thirty-nine years later, and Molly has been divorced three times and never found the fairytale marriage she was looking for. She became disillusioned with the whole dating scene after two attempts of rape, relationships that never lasted and several therapy sessions in which she felt she was the reason her life had turned out so horrible.

Had she not grown up to believing that life was one Cinderella story after another, maybe she would have been prepared for the frogs along the way. But then, who is to know what the future has in store?

No matter how hard you try, the relationship factor has baffled everyone. Since time began, man has always looked for that magic key that would open the lock to that fulfilling and lifelong relationship, without any problems or grief. So far, no one has been able to find that magic key.

Until now.

That magic key lies within you and by entering relationship remission, you’ll find out what it is you need to do to unlock that door to your heart and find the Cinderella life that’s been eluding you.

By taking a time-out and examining yourself closely, you’ll hopefully discover:

1) The only person who can make you happy is yourself

2) In order to be the person someone would want to love, you have to love yourself first

3) Being a queen instead of a pawn guarantees self-confidence and self-satisfaction

4) Self-love comes first and relationships naturally follow

5) You are queen of your own destiny

When you have had time to regroup, you discover things about yourself that you might have been ignoring, and it’s a perfect time to fix those things that are making you unhappy. What is life? Is it is a continuous pattern of hardships and mistakes?

In my relationship e-class, I teach that self-love is the most important thing. If you don’t have self-love, you have to go back to square one and fix it. It’s not hard to do, and if you don’t at least make an attempt, your relationships will go nowhere.

Taking a break from relationships when the need arises is very necessary. It’s the time when we can sit back and evaluate our past lives and try to figure out how we went off our intended path and how to get back on it.

The irony of this is that this is when your soul mate does appear—when you least expect it!

So, take time off when the need arises and listen to your intuition, which will guide you to make the right decisions. Follow your gut instincts when things don’t feel right and when things do feel right, it just means that it’s meant to be.

The soul mate relationship isn’t hard to figure out. But, sometimes, we need to regroup within ourselves to realize why our knight in shining armor just never seems to be within our reach. Fairy tales are fairy tales, but why not turn your life into your own fairy tale and live happily ever after?

While no relationship is perfect, you have the power to make it into anything you want it to be. After all, you are the queen of your own destiny and hold that key to your future happiness and well-being. Use the power.
]]> Mon, 19 Nov 2007 07:40:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/285275 Positive Thoughts, Positive Feelings. http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169161




Thoughts cause feelings, and the wrong kinds of thoughts can cause stressful feelings.


We can look at the same event different ways. One is in the optimistic way and the other is pessimistically. It is the age old debate of whether to look at the glass as half full or as half empty.


It helps if you can learn to look at the good things in life rather than the ugly. For example, if you got into a car accident and totaled your car, you can sit there and feel sorry for yourself, or angry for losing the car. These are all self-defeating. On the other hand, you can thank god that you were not killed or, worse yet, maimed in the car accidents. When you look at life's events like that you will have something to smile at every event and that is the power of positive living.


Robert Schuller, the author of "Tough times never last. Tough people do!" gives the following guidelines in looking at problems in the proper perspective:



Every Living Human Being Has Problems.

Perhaps you are unhappy with your work. Isn't it good that you have a job rather than being unemployed? Many people have the mistaken notion that successful people do not have any problems. It is not true. Success tends to breed its own set of problems.



Everyone has problems. A problem-free life is an illusion - a mirage in the desert. Accept the fact that everyone has problems. This will help you to move on with your life rather than sitting and feeling pity for yourself.



Every Problem Has A Limited Life Span

Every mountain has a peak and every valley has a low point. Similarly, life has its ups and downs. No one is up all the time or down all the time. Problems do get resolved in the long term. They don't last forever. History teaches that every problem has a limited life span. Your problems will not live forever; but you will! Storms are followed by sunshine. Winter is followed by spring. Your problems will get resolved given enough time.





Every Problem Holds Positive Possibilities

There are two sides to every coin. What may be a problem for one could be interesting opportunity to someone else. Hospitals are there because people get sick; garages are there because cars do break down; lawyers are there because people get in trouble with the law occasionally. Every cloud has a silver lining.





Every Problem Will Change You

When me meet problems head on in life, they leave their indelible mark on us. The experience could make you better or worse. It is up to you. What is certain is that problems never leave us the same way they found us. We will change.


For example, let us say that you lost your job. You can sit and feel sorry for yourself. Or you can be aggressive and decide to do something about it. You are better than them. You want to show them what a mistake they did in firing you. You have to be fired before you can be fired up. That may be wake-up call you needed before embarking on a successful mission. Again, for every problem, there is a positive and negative side. Look for the positive side and work on it.



You Can Choose What Your Problem Will Do To You

You may not be able to control the problems, but you certainly can control your reaction or response to the problem. You can turn your pain into profanity or into poetry. The choice is up to you. You can control the reaction even if you cannot control the problem. You control the effect of the problem by controlling the reaction. It can make you tough or tender. It can make you better or bitter. It all depends on you.





There Is A Negative And A Positive Reaction To Every Problem

Tough people, according to Schuller, have learned to choose the most positive reaction in managing problems. The key is that they manage their problems. Remember, we have little control on problems, we have control on how we react and manage the problem. Positive people chose to react positively to their predicaments.


Do you automatically interpret silence on the part of your spouse to mean anger when it could just as easily mean fatigue? Do you blame yourself when a sudden downpour drenches your wash on the line? Do you dwell on the few times your boss criticized your performance and ignore the innumerable times s/he's praised you?


We all fall into the negative thinking rut from time to time. We badger ourselves with "should haves" and lose sight of the fact that "good" and "bad" in life is rarely black and white.


All-or-nothing thinking can lead to anxiety, depression, feelings of inferiority, perfectionism and anger. We are our worst enemies. We tend to put a higher standard for us compared to others. We tend to criticize ourselves for our miscues rather than being happy for the accomplishments. Allow yourself to fail now and then. It's all part of being human. ]]> Fri, 28 Apr 2006 04:04:00 EDT http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169161 Inspirational Life story. http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/37766
The cow objected, "What? This kind of a tough life you want me to live for 50 years? Let me have 20 years, and the 30 years I'll give back to you." So God agreed.

On the second day, God created the dog. God said to the dog, "You are supposed to do is to sit all day by the door of your house. Any people that come in, you will have to bark at them! I'll give a life span of 20 years."

The dog objected, "What? All day long to sit by the door? No way! I give you back my other 10 years of life!" So God agreed.

On the third day, God created the monkey. He said to the monkey, "Monkeys have to entertain people. You've got to make them laugh and do monkey tricks. I'll give you 20 years life span."

The monkey objected. "What? Make them laugh? Do monkey faces and tricks? Ten years will do, and the other 10 years I'll give you back." So God agreed.

On the fourth day, God created man and said to him, "Your job is to sleep, eat, and play. You will enjoy very much in your life. All you need to do is to enjoy and do nothing. This kind of life, I'll give you a 20 year life span."

The man objected. "What? Such a good life! Eat, play, sleep, do nothing? Enjoy the best and you expect me to live only for 20 years? No way, man!....Why don't we make a deal? Since the cow gave you back 30 years, and the dog gave you back 10 years and the monkey gave you back 10 years, I will take them from you! That makes my life span 70 years, right?" So God agreed.

AND THAT'S WHY.... In our first 20 years, we eat, sleep, play, enjoy the best and do nothing much. For the next 30 years, we work all day long, suffer and get to support the family. For the next 10 years, we entertain our grandchildren by making monkey faces and monkey tricks. And for the last 10 years, we stay at home, sit by the front door and bark at people! :)))))
]]> Thu, 20 Apr 2006 03:36:00 EDT http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/37766 Be inspired, be happy... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169163
Today I've decided to share some great inspirational sayings about Love wit all ya... remember, Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less... Stay blessed!!!











“Do everything with so much love in your heart that you would never want to do it any other way.” Yogi Desai










“You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.” Amy Carmichael






“Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.” Leo Buscaglia






“If it is your time, love will track you down like a cruise missile.” Lynda Barry






“When I first met you I was afraid to like you, now that I like you I'm afraid to love you, now that I love you I'm afraid to lose you.” Unknown






“People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.” Douglas Yates






“I knew looking back on the tears would make me laugh, but I never knew looking back on the laughs would make me cry.” Unknown






“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”Paul Boese






“The work will wait while you show the child the rainbow but the rainbow won't wait while you do the work.” Unknown











“True love stories never have endings.” Unknown






“I have never regretted falling in love with anyone. I have lived and learned from everyone I know, and loved. I would not change a thing.” Nancy Williams






“The less we look with our eyes, the more we will see with our hearts.” Lyndsey Albrecht






“Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” Franklin P. Jones






“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.” Antoine de Saint-Exupéry






“You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.” Henry Drummond






“Love is when you give 60% and take 40%.” Unknown






“I love you, not for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.” Roy Croft






“In this world of extremes, we can only love too little.” Rich Cannarella






“Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking together in the same direction.” Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
]]> Thu, 20 Apr 2006 03:04:00 EDT http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169163 Inspirational Life story - The Gift of Life. http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169165 The cow objected, "What? This kind of a tough life you want me to live for 50 years? Let me have 20 years, and the 30 years I'll give back to you." So God agreed.
On the second day, God created the dog. God said to the dog, "You are supposed to do is to sit all day by the door of your house. Any people that come in, you will have to bark at them! I'll give a life span of 20 years."
The dog objected, "What? All day long to sit by the door? No way! I give you back my other 10 years of life!" So God agreed.
On the third day, God created the monkey. He said to the monkey, "Monkeys have to entertain people. You've got to make them laugh and do monkey tricks. I'll give you 20 years life span."
The monkey objected. "What? Make them laugh? Do monkey faces and tricks? Ten years will do, and the other 10 years I'll give you back." So God agreed.
On the fourth day, God created man and said to him, "Your job is to sleep, eat, and play. You will enjoy very much in your life. All you need to do is to enjoy and do nothing. This kind of life, I'll give you a 20 year life span."
The man objected. "What? Such a good life! Eat, play, sleep, do nothing? Enjoy the best and you expect me to live only for 20 years? No way, man!....Why don't we make a deal? Since the cow gave you back 30 years, and the dog gave you back 10 years and the monkey gave you back 10 years, I will take them from you! That makes my life span 70 years, right?" So God agreed.



AND THAT'S WHY.... In our first 20 years, we eat, sleep, play, enjoy the best and do nothing much. For the next 30 years, we work all day long, suffer and get to support the family. For the next 10 years, we entertain our grandchildren by making monkey faces and monkey tricks. And for the last 10 years, we stay at home, sit by the front door and bark at people! :)))))]]> Thu, 20 Apr 2006 03:04:00 EDT http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169165 UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/36659
A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco.
"Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring home with me."
"Sure," they replied, "we'd love to meet him."
"There's something you should know the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."
"I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live."
"No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us."
"Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live on his own."
At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg.

The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are. Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are.

Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer that God will give you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all be more understanding of those who are different from us!!! There's a miracle called Friendship That dwells in the heart You don't know how it happens Or when it gets started But you know the special lift It always brings And you realize that Friendship Is God's most precious gift! Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.]]> Thu, 16 Mar 2006 05:42:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/36659 Time, and time again!!! http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169167

To realize the value of ONE YEAR,ask a student who failed his exams...




To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby...




To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper...




To realize the value of ONE DAY, ask a daily wage laborer...




To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet...




To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the train...




To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident...




To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics...



Treasure every moment that you have!!YESTERDAY is history.



TOMORROW is a mystery.



TODAY is a gift. That's why it's called the PRESENT!!

]]> Thu, 16 Mar 2006 05:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169167 Appreciating Our Past! http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/36626
Our past is a series of lessons that advance us to higher levels of living and loving. The relationships we entered, stayed in, or ended taught us necessary lessons.

Some of us have emerged from the most painful circumstances with strong insights about who we are and what we want. Our mistakes? Necessary. Our frustrations, failures, and sometimes stumbling attempts at growth and progress? Necessary too. Each step of the way, we learned. We went through exactly the experiences we need to, to become who we are today. Each step of the way, we progressed. Is our past a mistake? No. The only mistake we can make is mistaking that for the truth.

Today, God, help me let go of negative thoughts I may be harboring about my past circumstances or relationships. I can accept, with gratitude, all that has brought me to today.

God bless ya all.
Anita]]> Wed, 15 Mar 2006 05:59:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/36626 What we hav to do wit a bad mood? ha? http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/36589
“I can’t go on working, I am depressed”, “I am so sick and tired of everything, maybe I have a depression?”, “Don’t bother her, don’t you see she is so depressed”. Such phrases are often to be heard lately. Those people suffering from depression have their individual reasons for it. The real causes of depression may depend on their personal propensity for overcoming stressful emotional states. Those who were brought up in conflicting families and experienced the feeling of fear, offence and humiliation are more subject to depression. Chronic stress can also result in depression. Depression is also typical for people who demand too much of themselves, are not able to relax and have inclination to constant anxiety. Though active and optimistic people seldom experience this state, it is even harder for them to overcome it – as it is completely alien to their nature. (that's about meeee, maaan) ...

During our lives we have to feel different shades of moods. There is nothing strange or abnormal if the loss of the job or splitting up with a close person plunges us into gloomy thoughts. But when some trifle like a college essay topic tears you apart and you can’t get rid of this fixed idea, it looks like a depression. Depression may take many forms and to get rid of it you should know the initial cause of it. Sometimes a person just does not realize that all he needs is rest. And depression is his subconscious want of some time off. If you feel miserable for a long time, it can be the evidence of your exhaustion and you have to take at least some days off. So, put off writing your essay paper and just enjoy simple pleasures of life. Surely I recommend it as a single instance, not a regular practice. Depression may signify that you don’t live the way you want. Then it is very important to change something in your life, to raise your spirits and have a new source of life energy.

If you don’t realize your innate capabilities, it may lead to despondent mood and depression. Self realization – is a significant term of psychological health. If you come across a serious problem, you may react with a depression. But after a while you start fighting the reality and overcome all the difficulties. As we can see all people have bad mood time from time, but they adopt different attitudes to it. Those who know how to control their mood and life energy are sure to win over the depression. These several simple steps of self control will help you to defeat the enemy: Don’t “stick “in the depressing thoughts. Don’t yield to burdensome reflections.
People are winding themselves and the surroundings and fail to notice the good in life. There are so many simple pleasures around us – the sun and the sky, children, just a passer – by who smiled at you with all his heart. Don’t be obsessed with sad memories. Your life gets limited and is concentrated in one point –despair and loss of hope. There is simply no space for anything else. But there should be. Do you remember Scarlet O’Hara’s words “I will think about it tomorrow”? Repeat them to yourself. Tomorrow will be different and maybe you won’t have to think about your present problem at all. And of course you should search for the good around yourself. Everyone has something special in his/ her life, don’t miss it – make it your own asset.]]> Tue, 14 Mar 2006 03:38:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/36589 BE THANKFUL! http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169169





Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?






Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.






Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.






Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.






Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.






Be thankful when you're tired and weary, because it means you've made a difference.






It's easy to be thankful for the good things.






A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.






Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.
]]> Tue, 14 Mar 2006 02:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169169 INSPIRATIONAL POSITIVE THOUGHTS part 2!! http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169171
Work hard at what you like to do and try to overcome all obstacles









Laugh at your mistakes and praise yourself for learning from them









Pick some flowers and appreciate the beauty of nature









Say hello to strangers and enjoy the people you know









Don't be afraid to show your emotions laughing and crying make you feel better









Love your friends and family with your entire being they are the most important part of your life









Feel the calmness on a quiet sunny day









Find a rainbow and live your world of dreams always remember life is better than it seems
]]> Tue, 14 Mar 2006 02:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169171 Let's be happy!!!! INSPIRATIONAL POSITIVE THOUGHTS http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169173
Allow Your Own Inner Light to Guide You






There comes a time when you must stand alone.









You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.









You must be willing to make sacrifices.









You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved.









Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged.









There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities.









Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.









Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise just to get by.









Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life.









Don't stand in someone else's shadow when it's your sunlight that should lead the way.
]]> Mon, 13 Mar 2006 07:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169173 Still snowing... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169175 What's up?

Today is 13th of March, but still snow all over here, in my town. Yesterdy it was even worse... wind with snow. It's unbelieveble weather 4 Spring. Today it's not even sunny, but I am trying to hold on and be positive, cos there's no bad weather, there's bad mood :)))]]> Mon, 13 Mar 2006 06:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169175 http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169179 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169179 Angry? In a bad mood a lot? Easily upset? These are warning signs... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169177



If you find that you are in a fairly regular state of simmering fury, or if things which used not to bother you are getting to you, or if you fall into tears much more easily than normal, or if the slightest thing sets you off, or if you dont' seem to be laughing and smiling as much as you used to - pay heed. These are all warning signs that something is going on with you; often that someplace in your life there is too much stress.


First check yourself physically - are you getting enough food? Enough sleep? The right kinds of foods? Enough water?


Next, review what's been going on in your life - major life change of some sort? Any stressors, things to worry you? Keep digging. Somewhere is a reason why you're different and you need to know what it is and deal with it. Anger is not healthy. Nor is stress. They literally produce toxins in your body which damage you. So it's absolutely to your physical benefit to find out what it is that is causing you to have changed. You only got one you, after all!]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169177 It's a Great Church in my town. I am proud of it's... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179497 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179497 It's evening and snow is falling... cool, but cold... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179499 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179499 from my window again :)) http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179501 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179501 Well, that's pics was taken in winter 2006... from... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179503 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179503 Look at Sonya when she was smaaaal baby kitten :))... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179505 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179505 My baby girl Sonya, jus love this cat!!! :))) http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179507 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179507 me at home :)) http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179509 ]]> Fri, 10 Mar 2006 09:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/179509 Hmmm... http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169181 Fri, 10 Mar 2006 06:03:00 EST http://AnitaBonita.tigblog.org/post/169181